Consequences of Being an Emotional Fool

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It was 3 AM, and I woke up in a panic attack, anxiety flooding my mind, sweat covering my body. The vivid image of all the issues with my new house flashed before my eyes.

I bought a house a month ago, moved in for a few days, and quickly realized there were a lot of problems. It looked new on the surface, but that was all for show. It was an old, cranky house that I bought—without a home inspection.

Imagine getting a new, fancy toy with an amazing outer box, only to open it and find a pile of broken parts that you don’t know what to do with. That was my situation.

I put everything (well, almost everything) into this house. I thought, “This is it. This will be the place of my dreams—a heaven.”

But it was all a mirage. Soon, I started seeing problems everywhere—issues with the house, the building, everything. And do you know the funny part? I don’t even know why the fu*k I bought this house.

I was just browsing places to buy someday. I looked at many apartments, even visited some twice to be sure. But this one? I looked at it once, made an offer, and it got accepted immediately.

Maybe it had issues, and that’s why the offer got accepted so quickly.

“What happened, happened,” that’s what my girlfriend told me. She was sleeping beside me and woke up because of my restlessness.

“I should move on and make the best of it,” I thought.

But how?

After being with my girlfriend for almost a month, I began to feel some relief. I started to forget the issues and think about how to fix them and move on.

It was great. And it’s all because of her. I’m not sure what I would have done without her. Now, I know you’re not here for some sappy love story.

But this is real. I’m not sure what other rash decisions I might have made if she hadn’t been there.

Here’s a piece of advice: If you’re not sure about something and you feel like you’re about to make a mistake, just stop right there. Your instincts are trying to help you. It’s different from facing the unknown. When you start something new, you might feel scared, but that’s not the same as sensing you’re making a mistake.

So, if you get that instinct, chill the f*ck out. And don’t make any decisions until you’ve talked it through with someone. It doesn’t matter if they’ve been in the same situation or not.

Just talk!
Talk with friends, family. Just talk.

Maybe discuss it with your parents. You might think they’re clueless, but they’re not. They’ve seen a lot more than you’ve even imagined. I couldn’t do it, but take it from me—just talk to them.

If you don’t want to feel anxious every day, if you don’t want to worry and have panic attacks constantly—talk, discuss, and be logical when making big decisions. Not every decision made emotionally is a good one.

You might be thinking, “This is all great advice, but what’s up with the title? Why does it say ‘Emotional Fool’?”

Well, “Emotional Fool” because most of the mistakes I’ve made with this house, and in my past, were because I was thinking too much with my heart instead of looking at my bank balance and using my brain.

For example, I bought this house because my parents were coming over, and I was living with friends. I thought, “I’m planning to buy a house anyway, so why not now?”

So, I just bought it. I didn’t even consider that I could rent an Airbnb for the same amount I’d be paying in installments. I mixed all my overwhelming feelings and thought buying a home was the best way to keep my family warm in a foreign country.

Now you can see what a foolish decision that was.

To cope with the expenses of the new house, I rented out rooms, and now my parents are staying in an Airbnb, which I could have done in the first place.

This was the most emotionally foolish decision I’ve ever made. Hence, Emotional Fool.

So, that’s it. That’s my rant about being an emotional fool.

See you in the next session! 👋🏼